There is one thing that more than anything else, holds us back from achieving what we want and desire.
I am talking about fear. Fear, in its various forms, is the biggest killer of our quest for successes, so why is this?
In its simplest terms, fear is an emotion that we experience through a physical response. I’m sure you have felt this physical response before: your palms sweat, your heartbeat increases, your body temperature goes up. This reaction was very-very useful to us, millions of years ago, when the things that cause this reaction in us were out to kill us, such as large animals looking for dinner.
But now, that emotionally based fear response has become extremely unhealthy. I say this Read More...
What do you do to confront fear? I have a suggestion – practice gratitude. Tony Robbins says, “When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” It is so true, gratefulness removes fear.
You have probably heard Oprah talking about keeping a gratitude journal. Coaching programs that I have taken part in talk about the gratitude principal and I recently heard a sermon on the topic of changing pleading into thankfulness.
We at Freedom Personal Development talk about thankfulness and gratefulness all the time, and yet as much as it is common knowledge that gratefulness has so much power, we often do not do it. Why is that?
I believe one of the reasons are the habits we have created in Read More...
As part of my company incentive trip to the Maya Riviera, I was given the opportunity to participate in a scuba diving excursion in the cenotes (under water caves) and jumped at the chance.
I was told that it was a different experience when you dive in caves, but since I had already dove in some really great spots like the Red Sea in Egypt, in Thailand & Cozumel, Mexico I figured I would make it no problem. I mean, how hard could it be, right?
Well, the time came as we, my co-workers, were preparing to enter the water and begin our dive adventure. As I got closer to the entrance point a cold dread hit me. My whole body froze and I began to breath irregularly. I could feel all the blood rushing to my Read More...
Fear of failure is the greatest obstacle to success. Failure doesn’t hold you back; it is the anticipation of failure that can sabotage your efforts to achieve your goals. Are you letting the fear of failure scare you into being overly cautious?
If you are….stop! Take the time to identify, define and analyze what you are afraid of.
Once you have identified your greatest fear, write out the answers to these questions:
1. How does this fear hold me back?
2. How does this fear help me?
3. What Read More...
Yesterday, Tom Weber wrote a great post on how to cure fear – and that was by taking action. Today, we will focus on how to cure fears in regards to a specific task – selling.
You might enjoy making a sale, but you find yourself getting that butterfly feeling before an important presentation or at the moment of decision. Even if selling is not your career, you do engage in sales – whether if be selling your point of view to others or your selling your skill set, as in a job interview.
I had a phone call today that I was not looking forward to and I had thought of putting it off until “tomorrow”. I had plenty of reasons why I could rationalize putting it off for another day, but I knew that the more I put it off the worse it was going to get. So, I made the time, and made the call.
Going into the call I was expecting a battle. The email that I had received beforehand was negative, accusatory, and disrespectful so I wasn’t excited to talk with this person. Amazingly enough, 10 seconds into the call the person on the other end was not acting ANYTHING like I had imagined they would.
I realized that what they thought they were communicating in email was not what Read More...
Failure isn’t what holds people back, it is the fear of failing that causes people not to achieve their goals and dreams. In this short video, Brian Tracy explains a simple three part formula for getting past the fear of failure.
Here are some quotes to help you overcome the fear of failure:
“One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only Read More...
Fear once had a very basic purpose-it ensured our survival as human beings. This intense, natural instinct is rarely necessary in our modern society today. Though you might feel panicked when you are running late or doing something for the first time, these situations can’t compare to what a cave-man must have felt when a saber tooth was about to eat him for lunch.
Fear is All About Imagination
We are incredibly creative, and have an outstanding ability to create fantastic scenarios in our minds. Our thoughts are so powerful that they can produce measurable physical responses within our body, even when there is no real danger.
When it comes to the pursuit of goals and dreams, Read More...
The fear response is part of our biological makeup to warn us of impending danger. Some fears serve as a necessary protector to keep us safe from harm; while other fears are merely road blocks to a peaceful fulfilling existence.
A healthy fear keeps you alert and motivated. For example, it is perfectly normal to have a fear of falling so you will not step out of the window of a ten-story building. Fear of disease will encourage you to live a healthier lifestyle, maybe quit Read More...
How is it that the most successful people have gotten to where they are? Is it because they are smarter or more talented then we are? Do they experience success because they have more money? Maybe it is because they are better looking or they are just plain lucky? The stars always seem to line up for them?
I would suggest that the answer to that is a resounding NO! History has hundreds and thousands of examples of how people and organizations have overcome one or all of those examples to lead very productive and highly effective lives.
If you look at your most successful professional athletes, sales professionals, CEOs, students, politicians or even parents, to name a few, there are a Read More...
There is one thing that more than anything else, holds us back from achieving what we want and desire.
